Thank God for kids. You have to function for their sakes even when you really (really) don't want too. You have to get up, get them up, get them ready for school, feed them, make sure they have everything they need, and all of the other stuff.
But you know, there is a piece of me that is really lonely. I know I have a great husband (most days), three good children, and a fourth (hopefully only one) on the way, but with Mom passing on, their is a part of me that feels incomplete. She was special, really really special, and I miss her. I know I am going to come home from work one day brimming with news, and she won't be there, and it's going to hit me really hard. And you know, I know there's no way to make it easier. I remember Mom saying once that it can hurt just as much 20 years later as the day it happened.
I go back to work the week after next so I woll use this week to clean up the details of Mom's life. It's not fun. The kids will all be in school or daycare so it will be somewhat easier, but it's still not going to be fun. Necesary, but fun.
Oh, and yes, you read right, I am pregnant again. Oops! Looks like the next Thiem should be showing up in September. Yes, we are happy, but the doctor is worried since I have been under a lot of stress, sick with bronchitis, then stomach virus, and I still breastfeed. Other than that, no issues : ) I am trying to make sure I eat and take care of myself, but it's not very easy right now. There are so many details to take care of. And I am always tired.
Derek is doing ok. He really cared about Mom and this has been hard on him. He goes back to school on Tuesday and has dropped one class to make it easier on himself.
We have learned through this a couple of realistic things, aside from the painful soul searching which I am not ready to go into.
1.) Make sure your parents/friends/family have their affairs in order - NOW. Make sure they have liing wills, durable power of attorneys, and wills. It's not a fun conversation, but no matter who they choose to follow their wishes, make sure they have them specifically stated somewhere in a legal way. It makes everyone's life a lot easier and guilt-free.
2.)Make sure you have done the same.
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4 comments:
Your Mom will be missed terribly by all who knew her. Congrats on the pregnancy, I hope that everything goes smoothly for you, you deserve a break from all the emotional stuff! Everytime you think of your Mom go and hug the kids!
Our thoughts have been with you. Congrats on the baby. She lives on in those kids...in their smiles!
Christie Munson
Wow...congrats on the newby!
And yeah, your mom really was special. There are few people I meet that I can have a convesation with right off the bat, but she was one of them. I will *never* forget meeting her.
Man, when I think back to how badly I didn't want to go to Ohio in the first place, now I'm awfully glad I did...
We continue to keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. Aren't you glad that you had your mother with you and did the best by her that was possible? You have made good memories along with the sad ones. Congratulations on the baby. Floie
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